"Master"
I have been asked by many a prospective dominant, to describe just what it is that I want, and I would have to write it all out, again and again, or spend time telling them on the phone. So, to save time and effort, this is my answer...
What do I want?
I want a man that can honestly call himself a "Master", because he fills the bill entirely.
I want to feel close to, or even love, this person. I have to trust him completely, and he needs to know, and is someone who believes, that honesty is a two-way street.
He must be able to take me from my normal: equal/Top/Dommish-mode and bring me to my sub/slave mode, with just a few words, or a glance, because the connection is so strong.
Someone who is an experienced (for a change) Dominant/lifestyler/play-partner and knows how to scene, how to do things safely, is proficient with a flogger and other implements, and knows how to use "sensation play" to make me melt. He should not require heavy, extreme bondage, cause, let's face it....I'm not that young anymore!! But if he happens to love knife play, and knows how not to cut... he will have an "in"with me. *Wink*
Someone who is not afraid to be a "Master" because he knows exactly what that entails, the responsibility involved, and can meet the challenge.
He does not suffer "Dom-drop" after being with his sub for just one day. Nor will he be someone who goes through the motions to "hook" his sub/slave then will just "leave her drying on the line until she is all shriveled", or, until he decides to finally partake of her charms again.
Someone caring, loyal, generous, kind, loving, who likes to kiss and be touched, who is not so steeped in ritual and his own radical training methods, that his sub feels more like a dog, than a pampered "pet".
Someone open to sharing his life, and wants to know about mine, no matter how trivial. If he wants me to keep a journal, he will read it, and not criticize it for having the things I want to put into it, even those trivial things. He must be interested in my writing and encourage me to expand my horizons, and publish much more than I have been. If he is good at editing, or giving constructive criticism, so much the better!
He's not someone who has read the "Dom 101 Manual" and nothing else. (Meaning, he does not fall into the old cliches, such as: "the sub must never wear panties, or, must wear skirts always," etc.) He is someone who enjoys life, likes to laugh, has a good sense of humor and whose jokes and wit can not help to allure me.
He is someone who does not mind dealing with occasional "brattiness", when the "Domme" surfaces from time-to-time, and knows just how to handle it, with skill and class. Someone who is flexible, but who does not make promises, unless he intends to keep them.
Someone who does not have an aversion to talking on the phone, emailing, and online communication, especially when we are not together.
He has to be someone who realizes that I am married, very much in love with my husband, even after so very many years, and that he has no control over my married life, but that he can have complete control over me, when we are together. It would be best if he were single or in an open relationship with his wife, as I am with my husband, to keep things aboveboard.
Someone who would like a long term relationship. Someone who sees the whole package and thinks its great...*taking a breath*...
Ok, I had best stop now...but this gives you an idea...
I don't want much....
I just want everything!
And....I'm worth it! *Wicked Smile*
What do I want?
I want a man that can honestly call himself a "Master", because he fills the bill entirely.
I want to feel close to, or even love, this person. I have to trust him completely, and he needs to know, and is someone who believes, that honesty is a two-way street.
He must be able to take me from my normal: equal/Top/Dommish-mode and bring me to my sub/slave mode, with just a few words, or a glance, because the connection is so strong.
Someone who is an experienced (for a change) Dominant/lifestyler/play-partner and knows how to scene, how to do things safely, is proficient with a flogger and other implements, and knows how to use "sensation play" to make me melt. He should not require heavy, extreme bondage, cause, let's face it....I'm not that young anymore!! But if he happens to love knife play, and knows how not to cut... he will have an "in"with me. *Wink*
Someone who is not afraid to be a "Master" because he knows exactly what that entails, the responsibility involved, and can meet the challenge.
He does not suffer "Dom-drop" after being with his sub for just one day. Nor will he be someone who goes through the motions to "hook" his sub/slave then will just "leave her drying on the line until she is all shriveled", or, until he decides to finally partake of her charms again.
Someone caring, loyal, generous, kind, loving, who likes to kiss and be touched, who is not so steeped in ritual and his own radical training methods, that his sub feels more like a dog, than a pampered "pet".
Someone open to sharing his life, and wants to know about mine, no matter how trivial. If he wants me to keep a journal, he will read it, and not criticize it for having the things I want to put into it, even those trivial things. He must be interested in my writing and encourage me to expand my horizons, and publish much more than I have been. If he is good at editing, or giving constructive criticism, so much the better!
He's not someone who has read the "Dom 101 Manual" and nothing else. (Meaning, he does not fall into the old cliches, such as: "the sub must never wear panties, or, must wear skirts always," etc.) He is someone who enjoys life, likes to laugh, has a good sense of humor and whose jokes and wit can not help to allure me.
He is someone who does not mind dealing with occasional "brattiness", when the "Domme" surfaces from time-to-time, and knows just how to handle it, with skill and class. Someone who is flexible, but who does not make promises, unless he intends to keep them.
Someone who does not have an aversion to talking on the phone, emailing, and online communication, especially when we are not together.
He has to be someone who realizes that I am married, very much in love with my husband, even after so very many years, and that he has no control over my married life, but that he can have complete control over me, when we are together. It would be best if he were single or in an open relationship with his wife, as I am with my husband, to keep things aboveboard.
Someone who would like a long term relationship. Someone who sees the whole package and thinks its great...*taking a breath*...
Ok, I had best stop now...but this gives you an idea...
I don't want much....
I just want everything!
And....I'm worth it! *Wicked Smile*
posted by Raevenne at 1/02/2005 01:02:00 AM
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